We all make honest mistakes in terms of our judgement and choices in life. We are, after all, flawed beings but created by Allah in a state in full of love and cherish.
In this era, our failures can be tremendously amplified by the means of social media platforms. Each one can be countlessly tweeted, ‘shared’ and ‘liked’ on Facebook. We disguise our mistakes and gloat about our accomplishments endlessly. Without even realizing it, we continuously construct and build up an illusion of a perfect life to whoever is reading or scrolling through them. But by doing that we are not only lying to the people around us but we are ultimately lying to ourselves. We also forget that true perfection does not exist in this world.
We live our everyday lives with our senses in a state of almost impeccable vigilance. Our senses constantly intermingling with one another to make sense of what is surrounding us. Each one innately assessing and focusing on what is there to come. When we are faced with a difficulty, our minds tend to focus on the wrong things without even knowing it. We concentrate and try so hard to find an absolute solution to the problems that we are blinding ourselves from pinpointing the root cause of it along the process.
We also tend to be judgmental of the mistakes of others instead of reflecting on similar errors we have made along the way. This is definitely not the most ideal way of life to be leading. We are creatures of empathy and it is imperative that we understand that making mistakes is inevitable. It is a part of life. Even when we do not agree with what was done, it is important for us to be self-aware in order to avoid making the same mistake as the other person.
In verse (53:32) of Surah I-najm of the Quran, it is stated that the people of Paradise are:
“Those who avoid the major sins and immoralities, only [committing] slight ones. Indeed, your Lord is vast in forgiveness. He was most knowing of you when He produced you from the earth and when you were foetuses in the wombs of your mothers. So do not claim yourselves to be pure; He is most knowing of who fears Him.”
It is written in the Quran that major sins and morals errors are to be avoided indefinitely but we are allowed to make lesser mistakes. We would still have a fair chance of achieving Jannah even with these lesser faults. The Quranic verse recognizes the humanly mistakes, so why shouldn’t we?
We are constantly told that this temporary dunya is not one without its twists and turns. There are countless trials and hard choices to be made as we try to navigate our way through it. We will trip and fall along the way but know that it is okay. It is in our human nature that we make mistakes. However, it is important that we do not let these mistakes make us fall into a state despair. Making mistakes and overcoming struggles are just the small components that cement the path in which we walk each day. When we recognize the possibility of straying off-course in the choices we make and the unavoidability of a misstep, is when we truly become closer to where the path leads us to – Allah the Almighty.
Most of us strive to make flawless and faultless choices every day. These become the benchmark standard when we are faced with a scenario where we are required to make a decision. But does faultless choices really exist? Or have we programmed our minds to think there is only one ‘right’ way to do things, and everything else is wrong? We are fixated with the avoidance of making mistakes to a point where we see them as something shameful. We find mistakes unacceptable even though we have all experienced it at one time or another.
Let’s give ourselves the permission to be human, shall we?
Let’s give ourselves the permission to make the occasional mistake along the way. Let us accept that we are flawed beings. By understanding and embracing our flaws, it is the only way we can truly evolve: not just into a better person, but into a better Muslim.