Alhamdulillah, we have entered another year and to follow suit from last year, I have come up with a list of resolutions for myself. However, unlike last year, I kept the list simple…and definitely very short. Now, I’m not one to follow my resolutions throughout the entire year, because I’m only a human being. We can plan and plan, but ultimately, Allah is the the one to decide.

وَإِذْ يَمْكُرُ بِكَ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا لِيُثْبِتُوكَ أَوْ يَقْتُلُوكَ أَوْ يُخْرِجُوكَ ۚ وَيَمْكُرُونَ وَيَمْكُرُ اللَّهُ ۖ وَاللَّهُ خَيْرُ الْمَاكِرِينَ 

But they plan, and Allah plans. And Allah is the best of planners. (Surah Al-Anfal, 8:30)

For instance, on the last week of December, I had a lot of outings planned out for the whole week, but I was caught in the malicious claws of one disease that I always wished I would never get… the chickenpox. Can you imagine the horror? I wasn’t even concerned about my fever, or my flu, I was more worried about my trips to the point that I even asked the receptionist at the clinic if it was possible for me to go out the next day. She gave the same answer that the doctor gave. No surprise there.

As I was saying, we can make plans for one whole year, but if Allah has something else planned for you, then life will run its course. Live with it, and know that whatever happens, it’s the best for you.

So, resolutions? I had quite a few last year. A whole list, but of course, I only managed to follow a few of them – not even half of the list. But my inability to complete my list opened my eyes to something that I should have known long ago.

Here’s the thing that I realised we should stop doing:

Stop being so ambitious and unrealistic with your resolutions!

Start small with your resolutions, for instance, “My resolution for 2017 is to smile everyday”, and hey, maybe you’ll actually get to accomplish this resolution and be proud of yourself by the end of the year. Then next year, you can slowly add more things on the list – just one or two small goals – and actually follow through.  

People need to stop with the mindset, “New Year, New Me”, because it leads nowhere

Changes and improvements on yourself should be carried out during all months of the year, and all stages of life. Why restrict yourself to the start the year for it to happen? We should always try to change and be better, and it shouldn’t only be done at the start of every year. It should be a constant thing. Maybe one day you wake up and decide to change for no reason, because sometimes it happens. So don’t wait for new year to change, if you want to change, just do it.

So, after all this rambling, what’s my resolution for 2017 you ask?

My only resolution is to go easy on myself.

Sometimes the world/dunya makes you bitter, it turns you cold, and you start losing grip on the things that matter

You even start punishing yourself for all kinds of things. But this is all dunya, and it shouldn’t matter more than the hereafter. Just learn to take things slow and go gentle on yourself. If you find yourself in a slump or a situation so messed up that it makes you depressed, remember that Allah is watching, so turn to Him and hopefully from there on, your mind will be at ease.

Go easy on yourself- dunya is meant to be filled with trials and tribulations, dunya is meant to test you, but try to find your way back to your Creator when you are tested and inshaAllah, you will find ease