For those of you who have experienced loss in the past year, I wish for you the strength and empowerment that comes with leaning on Allah. A sign of His mercy is that, as believers, you are compensated for all the pain you feel.
A single prick of a thorn and your sins will be expiated in equal amounts. What struck me was that at a time of loss, Allah consoles you with the greatest compassion reserved for only the worthy, and those Allah permits into paradise.
Narrated Abu Huraira RA:
Allah’s Messenger SAW said: Allah says, ‘I have nothing to give but paradise as a reward to my slave, a true believer of Islamic monotheism who, if I cause his dear friend (or relative) to die, remains patient (and hopes for Allah’s Reward) – Sahih Al Bukhari
I was reminded of this with the loss of my grandpa recently. He was someone who would insist on giving me money folded in a brown envelope despite not having much money himself. He was someone who would cry every time I had to leave for the UK. He was a rock for the whole extended family. He was a prankster. He loved oldies music which reminded him of his late wife.
My grandpa would sing Dimana kan ku cari ganti (Where will I find a replacement?), a tune by the beloved Malaysian singer, P.Ramlee, in a low quiet voice when he sat outside on the verandah.
When we lost my grandma, he was devastated but continued to live despite feeling nothing would be the same. He prayed, he continued to be present in our lives. When he passed away, I saw many people abandoning their busy schedules to pay their respects – they excused themselves from work, his grandchildren who had exams that day came to see him last one time. Three houses in the neighbourhood had to be used to host them all.
I thought to myself “He was such a good person that people loved him enough to drop everything to see him for one last time”.
Yes, we can cry for what was taken away from us. Yes we are allowed to be sad but don’t give up and abandon all hope and responsibilities. You are Muslim, you believe in the qada & qadr (destiny) of Allah and the hikmah behind it.
Praise to Allah, He lent us these blessings in the form of our loved ones. He owns all, yet when it is time they return to Him, reward is given to those who feel loss.
The reward comes in the form of jannah – in it there is no separation, no aging, no hunger, no poverty and no ill-feelings. You are surrounded by beautiful company, always. No burdens, nor death, will touch you again. You made it to eternal bliss and absolute rest.
“Wealth and children are [but] adornment of the worldly life. But the enduring good deeds are better to your Lord for reward and better for [one’s] hope.” (Al Kahf, 18:46)
How beautiful is it that nobody truly owns anything in this life? No husband actually owns his wife and vice versa. Nor does any parent own their children. They were entrusted to us and we will be questioned during The Reckoning. No single penny you make is actually yours. That house you worked for your entire life – you cannot hold on to it when you leave this world. The poor and the wealthy alike are judged based on their taqwa – their consciousness and piety towards God.
Knowing heaven will be eternal makes this life look like a tiny spec of sand and the desert. Life is but a moment, so make it a moment of obedience. We are travellers simply on our way to our destination.
“Every soul shall taste death” was heard during the procession after my grandpa’s burial. Zikrul maut, O heart. Make this life a means to enter paradise.
“It was from His mercy that he blemished this worldly life for them and made them and made it imperfect. This was so they would not feel comfortable in it nor feel secure regarding it, and so they would aspire for the endless enjoyment in His abode and in His company. So in reality, He deprived them so that He would give them, and He tried them so that He could relieve them, and He put them to death so that He would give them [everlasting] life” – Ibn al-Qayyim