“Patience is a virtue,”— We hear it all the time and we understand it. Unfortunately, however, most of us have not necessarily internalized it enough and it shows whenever we are faced with occasions that require us to actually truly understand the value of patience, for example, when you are sad or when you are burning with anger. This happens understandably so, because we all know how patience is one of the most difficult things to master, especially in trying times. This list serves to remind us of the importance and the benefits of patience, and how, with patience, you can emerge virtuous!
1. Without patience, everything goes wrong!
You can’t deny it. Once you’re angry or when you’re sad, every single thing you touch is smeared with either furious red of miserable blue. Even something as simple as texting will just be you typing out a jumble of consonants that will make your tongue roll all over the place when you attempt at reading them out (I know, we all angry-text!). Imagine this sort of unproductivity when you are required to carry out more important things, such as, having to finish that essay before its deadline tomorrow, or needing to go out to a work meeting with a valuable client.
Pro-tip: Take five minutes of your time to sit still with closed eyes and crossed legs. Think of the bigger picture: Is risking missing the essay deadline worth being angry about? Is putting a work meeting in jeopardy worth being sad about? Meditate.
2. It toughens the strength of relationships.
Relationships are built on the basis of one key aspect: Trust. Without trust, your mother will certainly have doubts about whether you really are just having dinner out with your friends or whether you’re off gallivanting with a no-good type boy like the ones in the TV series she watches. Granted, this sort of blind assumption, not necessarily from a parent, is bound to hurt you and make your blood boil but the finest choice to make in a situation like this would be to remain patient.
With patience, you will easily be able to explain that you are merely going out to a jovial group dinner with your best friends from high school and no, you don’t even know anyone who is a no-good type boy like the ones in the TV series she watches. With patience, your mother will develop an understanding towards you because there’s no wall of anger to bar her. Because of your patience, your best friends and family will trust you enough to see you as someone valuable to cherish for the rest of your life. The reward of patience in this case is unconditional love, companionship and trust from the people you treasure.
Pro-tip: When you feel the bubbling of anger, close your eyes, don’t think, and just count to ten. Take a few deep breaths and if it’s available, drink some water. Once you’re calm, it would be easy to gather patience.
3. You level up emotionally!
Naturally going about your daily lives will offer you some bad times amongst the good, and it is these difficult situations you are put through that level you up emotionally. Sure, you can choose to face these trying times with burning anger, shouting all over the place in your attempts to assert your dominance but let’s face it, it’s either you will feel bad afterwards or you will embarrass yourself. Your best friend is taking you and your efforts into making your relationship work for granted—Naturally the best solution would just to remain patient and trust that he will turn around. He is your best friend for a reason; there is a quality in him, if not several, that you have developed a liking to, and think about it, why would you be best friends with someone you don’t trust?
If you decide to face this rough patch the angry, shouting-all-over-the-place way, you will be rewarded with a scarred friend.
Granted, your best friend will understand what you say amidst the anger but that doesn’t mean you won’t hurt his feelings (and to hurt feelings is never what anyone really wants to do). If, on the other hand, you choose to deal with the rough patch with patience, not only will you emerge graceful and have a strengthened friendship, but you will now know that your tolerance for emotional pain has increased, which is always a good quality to possess.