People tend to think of millennials as a loveless generation; a lost generation who tries hard to find love in all the wrong places. We look to apps and websites to intervene where fate has failed, but find it difficult to connect to the equally lost human beings around us. Gone are the days of our elders where budding infatuation was marked with flowers, chocolates and awkward first dates. Now all we want is quick online validation; a “like” where a smile should be, an emoji when expressing our emotions becomes too overwhelming, a comment when a conversation should be taking place.
But they’re wrong.
Or at least, they’re not completely right.
We do know what love is, we just have different frequencies for it.
In the words of the highly-revered new-age philosopher-singer Ed Sheeran, “We found love right where we are”. We’ve made the best out of this cold, metallic age and we have trained ourselves to envision romance out of every amorous text message we receive. It’s only fitting that we find our hearts in upbeat, electro-pop songs that mold themselves according to whatever we crave for the most in our love lives. We’re satisfied with just the idea of having a special someone volunteer to be our safety lifeline, and to dive into “cold, cold water” for us. Songs, movies and the media have put the words right into our heads and we’re perfectly content with letting Justin Bieber woo us in place of our significant others with sweet techno promises of “never letting go” and “being patient” with us.
We still get butterflies when our baes slide into our DMs during the day with a spontaneous “WYD” and there is undeniable frisson when they respond to our Snapchats with their own well-filtered selfies. Just because we’re not prone to professing our love off the rooftops anymore or writing long-winded poetry on green, rolling hills (unless it’s been a slow week and we desperately need to work on our Insta-game), doesn’t mean profound acts of love have ceased to exist. It just has an easier life now on the Internet in the form of lengthy Facebook statuses and cryptic Instagram captions.
Millennials are generous with our electronic emotions and compensate with hyperbole where we’re lacking in intimacy. Impersonal as we are, we are an imaginative generation; you have to at least give us that. As for the negative aspects to our online relationships and wired expressions of love, well, we can always just turn a blind eye and swipe left for that.