In a current world where feminism has become a topic which is either celebrated or condemned (depending on which century your mind is living in), we often hear and rejoice in women doing the heavy lifting and bearing the brunt of raising a family while living three other lives on the side. However, a true feminist knows that it’s not about the pushing down of men to get to the top; it never was. It’s about acknowledging and understanding the true strengths and capabilities of both sexes, and for Father’s Day (and obviously, every other day of the year), it’s about the first man in our lives.

It’s about the fathers who love their daughters while understanding that it’s not about holding their hands from their very first step to the one down the aisle, and threatening to fight any obstacle that steps foot in their princess’ way. It’s about raising a queen and training her to be strong and independent enough to fight her own battles (while also having the sound knowledge that when it’s time to call in the big guns, we’ll always have permanent backup in the form of a protective father on the sidelines).

It’s not about enforcing the mentality that “Daddy will work hard so you don’t have to”. It’s about fathers coming home from a long day at the office and telling it like it is so their children won’t be coddled into fearing hard work. But instead, they’ll grow up embracing the mentality that even though the workforce will undoubtedly be a challenge, it’ll be a challenge worth undertaking to get to the places we want to be. A true example of learning from the best.

“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” Instead of being the gauge busied with the task of sorting out the bad seeds from the good ones, a knowing father understands all too well the philosophy of doing something right from the beginning. So scare a brute boyfriend off and keep your daughter happy for a day; but teach your daughter to make the right choices and you keep her happy for a lifetime.

Sure, there is a possibility that they might raise hard-headed, stubborn and mouthy daughters in the process, but a father who does it right will always sleep well at night knowing that they’ve raised their children with a good head on their shoulders.

Children grow up and become adults, bad boyfriends and good boyfriends may come and go, but a daughter’s love for her father is forever set in stone. Sacred is the place in our hearts that holds the memory of the strong shoulders that piggy-backed us through the vital years of our lives.

Happy Father’s Day to the best of them all.